Brian is guilty of premeditated murder. And he will pay dearly in hell for this because we all know that in order to receive forgiveness, one must truly, deeply, HONESTLY, repent. And, until he can honestly admit to the truth of his crime, he will not be forgiven. God knows his heart and He knows Brian has not even begun to ADMIT to the acts of that night. A plea bargain in Court is not an act of penance.

Yes, we are supposed to forgive, but as a close friend of DeeDee’s, and as a part of my weak human nature, I can not forgive Brian for what he did…not yet. I pray for the strenght to forgive, but it has not yet reached me.

And, may God be merciful to the young lady (the 3rd party so incredibly hidden) involved in this crime. She is just as responsible as Brian.

Funny how they don’t mention how terrible his lies were and how the police needed not his work computer they found so much on his home computer.

No offense but regarding your comment, the only information that we have here to go off of is that in the courtroom he offered no words to either his or her family. We don’t know any other communications that they have had.

It is a slippery slope that got Brian to to that road where he would kill his wife and we don’t know all the details there either.

We can set here and judge all day long based on the information that we have at hand (which is sketchy at best). That is something that I wanted to do all day this past Friday when I first found out about all of this. But I had to submit all of the grief that had overcome me to the LORD.

You see… this thing hits me VERY hard. Brian and DeeDee were both very good friends to me in college. We entered college as freshmen together. Ate dinner at each others tables. Studied together. Prayed together. Cut classes together to go eat at a Edelweiss, a German restaurant that was a favorite among Southeastern students and professors.

If we are to be Christ-like… we are to forgive and to pray for DeeDee’s family. Pray for Michael… I held this kid when he was only 2 years old and would never have imagined that 14 years later he would have something like this to deal with. And we are to pray for Brian… yes Brian. Does he deserve death? Yes. Has he committed a horrible crime? Yes. Does he deserve hell? Yes. But let’s keep in mind… we all deserve death (for the wages of sin is death). We have all fallen and come short of the glory of God. But thank God that we have a Saviour who forgives. Let us forgive with the same measure that we have been forgiven.

Just think about this the way that Christ would.

Jesus said to bless them curse you… to pray for your enemies. That doesn’t seem natural but what Christ has done for us is not natural either.

In Christ,

Philip White

Would that it could be so. A sad part to this story is that as a pastor he should be very familiar with humbling himself and the steps of repentance. He was interested in neither, and now families are torn apart.

Some sins have a horrible price, yet all can lead to the worst predicament: a separation from God. Time to pray.